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B and I had an interesting conversation today. We were talking about lucky charms then I said maybe charms act as a placebo. If you believe you'll be lucky because of those charms, then you will be lucky. Sabi nga sa The Secret, if you genuinely believe in something, then sooner or later it will manifest in your life. Something to do with being in the same frequency as the Universe. (Read the book if you haven't yet.)

The conversation evolved and we ended up talking about us and where we are now. We realized that at this point in our marriage and in our lives, we're not ready to get serious yet. By "serious" we mean, big, adult, long-term things, like buying a house or raising a child. Sure, we want to do and have those eventually but right now we're just having a great, fun time just going with the flow, taking it easy, travelling and just being ourselves. After all, we only get to do this for a while.

Tapos napagusapan namin ang conventions and how society expects a man and a woman in a relationship to get married, buy a house, have a kid and have another kid and another and another - in that order. Ang effect sa amin (at siguro sa ibang couples din) ng expectation na ito can be summarized in one word: pressure. 

We feel like we have to follow society's timeline even if we're not ready yet. Kaya we get anxious when someone asks us if we have a baby or if we're pregnant yet. We try to take the questions lightly and answer them with a polite, "no, not yet" but we can't help feeling like there's something wrong with us. If it's time, it's time. God will make it happen.